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I've been married to my husband, Michael, for almost 25 years. I'm a mom to a biological son and an adopted son from Colombia, and I'm also a spiritual mom to my adopted son's older brother, who I claim as a son in my heart. I'm bilingual and love to work with and relate to Spanish-speaking children and families. I've been a teacher to students from all sorts of backgrounds and cultures for the last 20+ years. I'm also an author and a certified Biblical counselor. I'm in a new empty nest season in a new location far from where I raised my boys, so I'm definitely in a stage of rediscovering myself, my interests, and my purpose.

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Sunday, May 21, 2023

Above All Names--2023 Shine Gathering

Leaving my church in Texas was so hard. I love LakePointe Church and all the ministries offered within the church. Ministries both to meet your need where you are in life and to give you multiple opportunities to serve others where they are in life. I'll always be thankful for a church home with a thriving Adoption and Foster Care Ministry, a powerful Marriage Ministry, a Financial Fitness Ministry, a Counseling Ministry, a Christian Writer's Group, a weekly Lifegroup Ministry, a huge emphasis on Missions all over the world and also in our own community, a Prayer Team, and a Women's Bible Study Ministry. Each one of those ministries connected me with people I could do life with in every season and with people that mentored me or that I could mentor. I loved being part of a big church with people from all walks of life that I grew close to by traveling together, studying Scripture together, having dinners together, praying together, putting on large conferences together, or just sitting around a table sharing our writing with each other and giving constructive critique. 

I miss those people and those groups dearly. As well as a Saturday night service. 

Church is family, and relationships that grow within a church body are essential and irreplaceable. Finding a new church home kind-of overwhelmed me. Especially because I was back in a small town with much smaller churches than I'd gotten used to and that only met on Sundays. I didn't expect to find all the different ministry groups I left behind, but I at least hoped to find a church with a thriving women's ministry that I could get involved in. 

We tried one church and felt welcome, but it seemed like several critical parts were missing. We tried another, felt welcome, but something still didn't feel right. We knew people at both, so we almost felt "guilty" for not going back. Then a coworker told me all about her church, and it sounded a lot like the church we left behind. So we visited once and immediately knew we were home. And every month we're there, God just keeps confirming that decision to us in so many little ways. 

We love the worship style, the preacher does a phenomenal job communicating Scripture so clearly, and we found a community group to join. We started meeting with smaller discipleship groups, and we volunteered to serve in the coffee ministry once a month. I found an amazing Biblical counseling team, and Mike and his brother volunteered to help out with maintenance needs that arise at the church. I've also already met at least four writers within the church, and I've heard there's more! Sure would love to see us form a writer's group someday. 

I reached out right away to the women's ministry leader, attended two women's events, and went to both the fall and spring Bible study. When I expressed interest in helping out more with the ministry, I got to help make Scriptural encouragement cards to make available at the yearly retreat/gathering or other women's events. I signed up for the women's big annual gathering in May, and to my surprise, they asked me if I'd like to lead a table group. I had no idea what that meant or entailed, but I jumped at the chance. I didn't find out until the night before that it meant I'd facilitate the table discussion after each speaker. That's one good way to get to know a few more people, I thought. 

The night of the gathering came, and I walked in still very awkwardly as I still don't know that many people. But I sure am glad I signed up and went. The women's ministry at this church is truly thriving, and the hearts of these women just blew me away. All five of the speakers were from the church, and they all spoke very tenderly about a specific struggle God brought them through and spoke with an incredible passion to know God in an intimate way. The theme was all based on knowing God personally through his many names, a theme I've spent a LOT of time studying and researching over the last few years. A topic I'm deep in the middle of writing about for a book for undereducated ministry workers in third world countries. Just another confirmation from God that He's the one who guided us to this church. 


My dear friend, Hannah, who moved here just a few months before I did, and who led a table group at the gathering, too. We met in a breakout session in our community group and just clicked. We're in totally different stages of life right now, but realized we both longed for the same thing--deep friendship. Love her.


My new friend and fellow adoptive mom, Terri, that I met in my table group

A few more new friends from my table group, including another Rachel, who is also a fellow adoptive mom

Leah sharing about her struggle through infertility, realizing that Jehovah Jireh provided that experience to draw her closer to Him. 

Our weekend program, along with cute journals we decorated. 

My fellow Texas friend who came 20 years ago to help plant this church, sharing so many great truths about clinging to God through great loss.


An incredible time of worship together. 

The prayer team, praying over the gathering before it started.




Our table decorations


My table

My sweet friend, Bek, also a fellow adoptive mom, testing out the sound system
The "take what you need" board, with a lot of the cards I got to help make





They offered to let us take home a decoration or two. When almost everyone left and I noticed how many were still there, I took a few extra. This is what I did with them. I love how they turned out! Great visuals to have in my "office" area where I write. 



Saturday, May 13, 2023

Birthday and Teacher Appreciation Week 2023

As much as my students spoiled me last year and truly treated me like a queen for both Teacher Appreciation Week and my birthday, I didn't think it could be topped. I currently only have a few students this year, who live on campus during the week, and I don't even have a badge to go enjoy any kind of Teacher Appreciation Deals around town, so I truly had already pushed any thoughts of "being celebrated" out of my mind. I love my job and my students, and this was just another part of it being a totally different kind of teaching experience.

But, oh, was I wrong. I felt celebrated this week in a much more personal and meaningful way than in all my nineteen years of teaching in public school. 

I walked in to my classroom on Monday morning to a pot of flowers and a gift bag full of classroom goodies, including my favorites--a journal and fancy colored pens. I found a very touching card and note of appreciation along with the gift bag from Bob and Lisa, the people who founded and are the directors of New Song Mission. My teammate, Julie, found the same surprise waiting for her on her desk, too. Just a few moments after I walked in, Lisa came downstairs to tell me in person how much she appreciated me and was thankful to God for bringing me to the team. My heart swelled with gratitude for the opportunity to work in such a unique place with such an amazing team.


But that wasn't it. The surprises kept coming all week. On Tuesday morning, the boys walked in to the classroom with sweet notes and treats for both me and my teammate that their houseparents had taken them to purchase for us (and prompted them to make for us). 

An adorable cup/glass mug, a gift card to Dunkin Donuts for coffee, and Hershey's Special Dark, the perfect treat to enjoy after lunch. 

My birthday came next, and I honestly felt very little excitement about my special day this year. My boys and my family are far away and unable to celebrate with me, and I'd already been out two nights in the week after a very full weekend that had me quite "peopled" out. I was tired and didn't want to do anything extra that evening besides go out to eat. 

The boys (my students) had already made comments about bringing me a birthday cake, so I knew they had something planned. I came in that morning to find pretty pink flowers, birthday decorations, and a birthday pin to wear for the day. After lunch, they all arranged the sweetest celebration upstairs in the kitchen to celebrate me on my birthday. It was precious and such a special time to all be together. One of the students asked if they could go around the table and each say what they were thankful for about me. Then all of the adults around the table took time to pray over me. We had cake, ice cream, and presents. One of the houseparents' children (going into first grade) said he wanted to say a poem for me, and he wanted that to be the last gift. So after I opened all the gifts, he spoke a poem over me. It was precious. He almost froze half way through, but then he recovered and finished. :)

My mom happened to send my gift with me when I came home from Texas at the end of April, so I got to start the day opening that gift from her (and sending her a video of me opening it). She called me later in the day as I was on my way to Chili's to have dinner with Mike. 

A nice box with a verse from my mom, along with ornaments on the Names of Jesus. 

Sitting on my desk to greet me on my birthday.

We just "happened" to arrange Furry Friends Day (for Spirit Thursdays) on my birthday, so Boots got to go to school with me for the day!


And my students brought their (stuffed) furry friends to class, as well. 

They really enjoyed having him at school!



A gift from one of the students, who said it was just right for his teacher from Texas, who happens to love pink!

I wore it the rest of the day. 

The sweet gifts they all gave me. A really soft, fuzzy blanket, a pink cup, two small coffee mugs, a collection of teas and honey sticks, handmade wash cloths, and really sweet cards and notes. 


And in keeping with tradition for the Alspaugh's, we had dinner at Chili's. Now that it's all the way across town, I don't get to eat there near as often as I used to when it was just around the corner. 



One of my closest friends sent me a card in the mail, David sent me a sweet message at 12:01 am,  and Juan posted a really nice message to me on Facebook. Plus many, many friends posted messages on my timeline on Facebook. I got a video message early in the morning from my new friend at church, who tonight gave me a really pretty journal with a priceless note written on the first page. It filled my heart and made me want to cry. 

All in all, despite not being able to see my boys, I had a really good birthday this year. 








Thursday, May 11, 2023

1,000 Gifts

Years ago I read Ann Voskamp's book, 1,000 Gifts, and I took the challenge. I started my daily gratitude list with the goal of getting to a thousand. Starting every day with gratitude, and then living life with your eyes wide open to finding God's gifts all around you, will change your life. It definitely changed mine. In fact, when I reached a thousand, I kept going. And I don't ever plan to stop. I did stop numbering, but I never stopped looking and recording daily the gifts that God gives me. 

Every day we rise, we have another day to enjoy God and all of his gifts. All the varieties of animals, birds, plants, flowers, songs, Scriptures, and people that he puts in our lives. Another day to enjoy a hope, a dream, or a memory. A feeling of success. To taste delicious foods and thank God for our sense of taste and the variety of flavors available to us. Here are just a few things we can always find to be thankful for: 

Gifts from God that we can always be thankful for:

  • Relationships

  • Food

  • Health or healing

  • Employment

  • Home

  • Education

  • Achievements/breakthroughs

  • Reliable utilities (power, heat, lights, clean water)

  • Natural beauty

  • Spiritual gifts or growth

  • God’s strength, peace, or provision

  • My 5 senses

  • Opportunities or experiences

  • Technology

  • Good surprises

  • Talents/skills


So around late January or early February, I decided to challenge my new students to create a new list of 1,000 gifts with me. These are nine and eleven-year-olds. The task seemed a little daunting to them, but I told them that between all of us, I believed we could do it.

Today they reached 1,000. I was so proud of them. And you know what? We just kept on going. I typed them all out for them so they can take their list home with them for the summer, and I hope that the daily practice instilled a habit in them of always looking for signs of God's love for us, signs that I reminded them today just point to HIM. Signs that remind them how much God does to show us that He loves us because He wants a relationship with us.

(A song that complements their accomplishment well)








I'm missing a pic of the 700's here.